So, since the last time we've talked, I dated someone.
His name was Joel Williams. He started out nice enough. He was sweet, charming, cute and all the things that you look for in a boyfriend.
We dated for three months. Things were good. We had our problems, yes, like most couples, but after a while, things just got to be to much. We were fighting all the time over the same problems. He never listed to me, he never always thought he knew what I was thinking, overall he just was very selfish and self centered.
Well, I told him that I couldn't be with him anymore because I just couldn't take it anymore. This was on Thursday, November 30th. He came up to the house to get the rest of his things and we ended up talking. I explained that I needed time to decide what I wanted to do. He told me that was fine and that we could do that.
This is when the fun started.
He went into the bathroom, came out, and went into the guest room to get in bed. I told him to set an alarm so he could get up for work in the morning. He told me that he only hoped that he could wake up because he had taken 4 Vicadin and was going to kill himself because he couldn't live without me.
I got a little worried because he was getting really sleepy and incoherant, so I called his parents. His Dad told me that he wouldn't worry about him because he did this sort of thing to get attention. That didn't make me feel any better, so I went back to talk to Joel about going to the hospital. He finally agreed and we got there about 5:30 a.m. on Friday morning.
After about an hour of waiting and a blood test later, the Doctor told him that he didn't have enough of the drug in his system to so anything but make him sleepy. He sent him home to sleep it off and feel better.
Needless to say, I was pissed.
We came back to the house and I went to sleep. I didn't want to talk to him, I didn't want to look at him, I didn't want to be in the same room with him. When I did wake up, I had to get ready for work because it was so late.
He tried to apologize. He played our song and wanted to dance with me. I pushed him away and finished getting ready. Then I finally did look at him and tell him that I was done and that he needed to get away from me.
So, I left the house and went to work. On the way there, I got several text messages from him, telling me that he had more pills and he was going to take them and get drunk. He asked several times if I would be mad at him if he took them. Of course I told him yes, but that I couldn't come home so that we could discuss it.
During work, he called a could of times to tell me he was going to go drink with his friends. I didn't answer him, I figured it was all an attempt to get my attention again. There were more drunken text messages from him.
Then I got home.
He called me from the bar, asking me if I will come pick him up because he doesn't want to drive drunk. I refused. I mean, I'm not going to pick him up espically after what happened earlier that morning. He drove home anyway, texting me to tell me that he had gotten pulled over and the cop had taken his keys. Anyway, I told him I wasn't going to pick him up from anywhere.
Well, he called my phone, crying, telling me that he had to walk 16 miles back to his car and that it was cold and that he was drunk and he needed me. I refused him again. Then I stopped answering my phone. He sent me a text telling me that he was coming to my house. I told him not to and he got mad, thinking that I was either going to be at someone else's house or that I was going to have someone here.
Anyway, when he gets here, I refuse to let him in. That's when he started crying on the front porch, begging me to let him in, telling me that he had nowhere else to go because his parents had kicked him out because he was drunk. I still told him that I wasn't letting him in.
Now here's where it gets good.
He starts crying about how he's going to have to sleep in his car, and it's 28 degrees and he's going to freeze to death. So, I gathered his things, put them in a bag, and put that and two blankets on the back porch. I called him and told him what I had done and to be warm.
That's when he started to kick the doors and the walls and yelling at me to let him in. The first punch that he threw against the backdoor, I called 911 and told them there was a drunken fool on my porch that needed to be removed. They promised to send someone out and to just stay inside and not let him in. (Duh. That was a no brainer.)
It takes about 20 minutes for the sheriff's deputy to get here and during this time, he hasn't stopped yelling, and kicking, so I call my cousin who lives across the highway, just incase he does break into the house. She and her husband wake up, and she talks to me until the police do show up.
Now, during all this, he's still on his rampage outside. I hear him walk around the house, and threaten to kick a dent in my truck. I still don't go outside because I'm not going to be manipulated like that. Then, like an idiot, he hits the air conditing unit that's attached to my house. He started moaning, telling me that he's broken his arm and he needs help. I just tune him out and wait for the cops.
Finally, the police show up. He drives up the road beside the house, with his searchlight on. He sees Joel outside, still rampaging, and turns around in the road to come to the house. Joel spots him and jumps in his car, trying to get away from him.
The policeman stops him, just before he gets out of the driveway. When Joel finally gets out of the car, he's yelling that the cop can't do anything to him, because he's a cop too. After a while, he calms down enough so that they can get the handcuffs on him. This is the time that he decides to rush the cop. Well, lets just say he ends up face down in the dirt.
Finally, they get him in the car and take him down to the station. I get calmed down and get comfy on the couch. About 30 minutes later, my phone rings. It's him, calling to see if I will come pick him up and bring him back to his car.
Of all the nerve! I realize right here and now that he's got balls the size of grapefruits!!!!!!!
Anyway, I refuse to pick him up anywhere. He has a friend call amd beg me to pick him up. I explain the situation to her and she agrees with me.
So, finally, I get to sleep. I wake up the next morning, planning on not thinking about him at all. I call Heather and the parents and let them know what's going on. Mom stops by to hug me and then she goes on to Granny's.
Not 20 minutes after she leaves, Joel pulls up in the driveway! He knocks on the door, but I don't answer it. He leaves a card on the back door and goes away.
For a day, I don't hear a thing from him. Then, he calls, he text, and he has a friend call to try to fix everything. I tell him, for the second time, that there is no chance that we're going to get back together.
All this week, I've gotten text, I've gotten calls, and he's gotten three of his friends to call me and try to get me to listen to reason. I finally talked to him today. He promised that things would be different this time. He said that he would know that when I said something, that's what I meant. So I told him that I didn't want to see him anymore. He told me that I didn't mean that.
So anyway, that's the story. He's already got our new relationship planned out. He has a schedule worked out for when we'll see each other. He knows how many times we'll call each other during the week. Then, he even knows when he'll be allowed to start staying at my house again.
I can't make him understand that I'm done. I was done before all the stuff with the pills and the drunken rage and after those nights, I was really done. Any ideas on how to make him understand?
Help would be appreciated.
I'm gone